My grandmother turns 100 next week. I’ve had the privilege to know her a quarter of her life. When I was born, I had an Apgar score of 1 (10 is a perfectly healthy baby and 0 is a dead one). Needless to say, my parents were stressed. My grandmother and the rest of the family drove down from Kentucky to see the first grandchild and to support my parents. From what my mom tells me, my parents were still in shock and were extremely cautious and careful with me. As the oldest of 9 and the mother of 4, the matriarch of our family scooped me up in her arms, held me tight, and lifted me in the air, “You’re going to be my miracle baby! And you’re going to be just fine!” My mom said I smiled.
Growing up, I knew my grandmother was special. As fond as I am of words and languages, no word can do her justice. If you saw her smile or tasted one of her chocolate chip cookies, you would immediately know that “Mary T” is different. Her blue eyes still light up with curiosity when she hears about my students in China or about my time in San Francisco. She’s always laughing and eats ice cream almost every day, except for during Advent and Lent. Even as she turns 100, I’ve never thought of her as old. When someone asks her, “What was your favorite age?” She chuckles and responds, “The age I’m at!”
She has the strongest faith in God of anyone I’ve ever met and says her rosary daily, praying for every member of our family and friends with their specific needs at that time. She also is the most grateful and humble person I know. Every time I call, she mentions how grateful she is to have a loving family, how grateful she is to have a warm home, how grateful she is that you called. She briefly mentions the arthritis in her hands but quickly adds, “I thank God every day for my good health.” She ends every call with several “I love you’s” and a “sweet kiss.”
My grandmother’s also human. She has had more than her share of hard times and has plenty she could dwell on, but she chooses to love and let go, which next to patience, is my greatest life lesson. My grandmother earns less than $1,000 from social security a month, but if you asked her what she wanted for her birthday, I know she would answer “my family.”
Grandmother: I love and respect you more than words could ever express, and I strive to be half the woman you are.
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**Note: Thank you to everyone for your thoughtful and kind comments. My grandmother has since passed, but her memory lives within all the lives she touched. You can meet her in the 6th episode when I interviewed her in 2006.**
She really is an incredible woman. She’s taught me far more than how to bake a pie. She’s never treated me any different than her own daughter. She’s taught me to be a better person by her example. We’ve all experienced some difficult times in our lives and she was there praying for us all along. She was especially there by my side 24 years ago when I needed someone to just hold my hand and listen to me. I, also, love her more than words could ever express.
She truly is amazing!! Can’t wait to see her and you next week, Aunt Karen!!
Sometimes God leaves His angels on earth so we can no what heaven must be like. I think He plans it that way so that we always strive to get there (eventually) I have known many and you and your Grandmother sound like the type. Your ability to be grateful for the gift that she is in your life really says that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. Thank you so much for sharing these lovely thoughts. That picture is a treasure as well.
I agree. You have a treasure here on earth!
I do! Thanks for reading!
Thank you, mmgoodsongs, for your kind and thoughtful words. I really appreciate them. I can’t wait to show my grandmother all the positive feedback that’s come from this article. I know it will mean so much to her!
That was a beautiful story. I would love to meet her…she sounds wonderful. I can’t believe she is going to be 100!! Wow…very impressed. God be with her always!!
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Thank you, runtobefit! I love running too!
Wow. This is so sweet!! I feel the same way about my grandma.
Thank you!
What a lovely tribute to your grandmother! We need more people like her.
Thank you! I agree.
Wah… you make me miss my own grandma. She was something else. My favorite quote from her? “If you never accept a child’s dandelions, you will never get their roses.” Thanks for this post!
Great quote!!
Thanks so much for sharing this on your site!
I think we sometimes take grandparents for granted, I only have one left and I realized about 2 years ago I better make use of this time, ask questions and hear stories…these people are your lifeline and wont be here for ever. Good story Jackie!
Thanks Sarah!!
You are very lucky and your Grandma sound super. God Bless all of your family! I’m glad you seem to have thrived!
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Thanks Evie!
Beautifully written. My Grandmother has passed on but my heart breaks, still, with gratitude whenever I think of how she loved.
Thank you!! I’m glad to hear that you had such a profound experience with your grandmother too! Great blog name by the way!
Beautiful
Thanks Andrea! And our conversation was the inspiration to write it!
Thank you for this post! I really wish I had more time to spend with my grandmother!
Thanks for reading, elenasc! It sounds like you had a wonderful experience with your grandmother too. I’m very grateful to have her in my life!
Beautiful! I love the blog idea and grateful to find it. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you Marianne!
nice story..happy birthday for your grandmother 🙂
i wish i could know my grandmother, lucky you still have her 🙂
Thank you! I know that feeling too. I never knew either of my grandfathers and would love to have heard about all their experiences.
Where does the 6 months to live comment come in? Are you or your grandmother expected to pass away in 6 months, or is it just a philosophical question, what would you do if you knew you had 6 months to live?
It’s more of a philisophical question. 🙂 I hope to live as long as my grandmother! I write more about the background of the blog in the “about” section. Thanks for reading!
thanks for putting my life in perspective, and in an incredibly well-written way. congrats on being freshly pressed too!
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Thanks so much!
Thank you for sharing. Beautiful story.
Thanks for reading, Beverly!
Happy 100th birthday to your grandmother. Seems we could all learn a thing (or 100) from her. Being an ice cream addict, I love that she enjoys the frozen dairy treat every day. She’s my kind of person! Thank you for sharing this with us.
Regards,
Lenore
Thanks so much, Lenore! I love ice cream too!
Thank you for sharing your beautiful Grandmother with us. By the example of her love and prayers she keeps the faith shining and present for the rest of us. Please tell her this… and send along Happy Birthday Wishes!
I will be sure to pass that on, Sophie! Thank you!
Thank you for sharing 🙂
Happy Birthday to your grandma. (I’m liking the fact that she still likes ice-cream. That’s a cool Grandma if ever there was one!) 🙂
Blessings
ann
Thanks Ann! She’s a pretty cool lady!
Congratulations for being pick up by wordpress. How was Nepal? Details…details.
Your grandmother is inspiring,keep on writing 🙂
go out and play,
Allie
Thanks for reading, Allie! The Nepal trip got canceled… 🙁 So instead, I went to Goa for a few days and enjoyed the beach. I will be sure to get to Nepal in the near future though! When you get a chance, be sure to update me on how your travels are treating you!
This is a beautiful post! Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful grandma with the rest of us.
Thank you, Lee Ann! I really appreciate your comment.
Awesome. Beautifully written. Nice shoes, Jackie.
Thanks girl! Jane would be proud!
So glad that your post was picked to be FP’d so we can all share in your grandmother’s birthday. I ‘m sure she is getting a kick out of all this!
What a sweet picture!
Thanks! Really liked your site!
this brought a tear to my eye. I could feel your immense love for your grandma and she sounds like an amazing woman that we could all learn from. thank you so much for sharing 🙂
I am been yearning to be more spiritual and also be more grateful for what I have and your post is what I needed for a boost. your grandma sounds like your true heroine 🙂
Thank you!!
Well, that brought a tear to my eye. Thanks for sharing such a wonderful story, and a wonderful grandmother. Sounds like the grand-daughter is pretty special too. Congrats on being Freshly Pressed!
Thank you, jumping in mud puddles! I love jumping in puddles too. 🙂
I love her response to the question “What was your favorite age?” So many people are stuck in the past and forget to enjoy the present. She seems like a wonderful woman and a great example on how to live.
I agree!
Beautiful photo of you two! It’s amazing the moments we capture, that will last our lifetime, and those to come.
Congrats on being Freshly Pressed!
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Thank you! My dad took it!
Aww. This is sweet. I suddenly remember my grandmother. She was to me what your grandmother is to you. .After 11 years I still misses her 🙁
It sounds like she lives on in your heart.
Yes. She will always be. 🙂 Thanks for posting by the way 🙂
Wow! That is lovely! Sounds like she is a very wise and loving woman. 🙂 I keep a gratitude journal each day…. my joy is often contagious and that is how I experienced what you wrote about your grandma. Have fun celebrating her birthday!
A gratitude journal—that’s a great idea! I think I’ll start one of those. Thanks for reading and commenting!
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~Samantha~
100+ Club co-ordinator
Interesting! I’ll let her know.
What a beautiful tribute with words of praise for your grandmother. You made my heart feel something and my eyes tear at the corners for the sheer love you express for her. It’s wonderful that you have such an exceptional role model in your grandmother. She sounds like the kind of grandmother I would like to be someday!
My daughter was born 3 months early and weighed 2 lbs. 8 1/2 ozs. and was given a 50/50 chance to live. She spent 54 days in the hospital before I could take her home with me. Now, she is in her second year of college on an academic scholarship and is healthy as can be at the age of 19. She is my “miracle baby.”
That’s a wonderful story! Your daughter was able to achieve so much in part because she had loving support from her family. I’m sure that you will be a wonderful grandmother too!
That is beautiful. I have similar memories of my grandmother. The best gift she gave me was her strong faith in God. She passed away when she was 92.
Last night as I was going through some old crafting supplies I found a piece of an old postcard from my other grandmother that the one I spoke of above had then used as a pattern piece for a quilt. It was such a treasure to find. I blogged about it here.
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Thanks for sharing! Liked your blog! 🙂
love it! beautiful story
Thank you, Shanna!
This reminds me of my grandmother who is 95! 🙂 Lovely post! Both of you have fun celebrating the b’day. And congratulations on being freshly pressed!
Thank you! 95! That’s great. It sounds like you’re enjoying your time with her too!
Hope your 6 months goes well. Congrats on being Freshly Pressed.
Thanks, huffygirl!
Thank you for sharing. I miss my grandmother so much…
Thanks for reading and commenting. Grandmothers are special people, and it sounds like yours was very special too.
What a lovely tribute to your grandmother. Your mother has spoken so often about her and what a wonderful woman she is – and now to read how special she is to you too! Beautiful!!
Wishing her the BEST BIRTHDAY EVER! Have fun at the party.
Thanks for reading, Dianne! She truly is amazing and has transformed all our lives! I can’t wait to go home!
Such a wonderful post. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you! I really appreciate that!
nice post,,ur are rockkking
Thank you, Shihabvm!
Please send her my birthday wishes (wish her a long, happy life, surrounded by family and friends she loves), along with hugs and kisses… from Indonesia ^^
You’re so lucky to have her, and I believe she’s lucky to have you ^^
God bless your family ^^
Wow! Greetings all the way from Indonesia! I know she’ll appreciate that. Thank you!
My Nana died just two months ago at far too young an age…and I was closer to her than anyone else in my life. It’s been awful…but it was so wonderful to have known her…and I’m so glad I don’t regret not spending time with her enough…we spent sooo much time together. I think it’s great you appreciate and love your grandmother. Enjoy being with each other! Memories last forever.
Thank you for sharing this, thedesertdreamer. I’m glad that you got to spend so much time with your grandmother and that you have memories that remain in your heart now and always.
Thanks for replying to my comment. I love that you take the time to do that for everyone who comments. I’ll keep an eye on your blog. It’s great.
Awww, this is so sweet. There are no too many people like her these days. May God Bless her and you too :).
Thank you! Blessings to you too!
An excellent post, Ma’am! Your grandmother’s qualities are a true representation of how life should be lived.
I read your post and wrote this in about 2 minutes [How accurate of an interpretation this is, I do not know.]:
“Eclectic thoughts swing and heavens run around,
With the joy of life, existence is abound,
Age has gone on and on, yet nay have it I seen,
The child in my inner spirits jumps, active and keen.”
That’s pretty cool—especially for 2 minutes! Thanks for sharing!
I love your post. It makes me miss my grandmothers. Both of them are always joyful and fun to be around with.
Thanks jkcarillo! It’s amazing how much the generations before us can teach us and how those memories and lessons stay with us our entire life.
this is oh so touching! you almost made me cry.
happy birthday to your grandma!
Thank you, Anna! I really appreciate you reading and commenting.
Wow i love your blog its awesome nice colors you must have did hard work on your blog. Keep up the good work. Thanks
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Thanks John!
this is a really touching post. my grandmother’s coming today too, but i’m definitely not happy about that. she’s so stuck up and snobby and can never take a joke. she had 100 plastic surgeries and can even blink her eyes. this is probably torture in one way or another.
Thanks for reading, fashionelle! It sounds like your grandmother is very sensitive and insecure. I hope that she finds peace and self-acceptance.
Oh my she sounds just like my Grammy. She passed last year at 94, but she never lost her mind. She had 20 grand children and treated us all special. She kept us all updated on the rest of the family. She too was a devout catholic, but not dogmatic or judgemental of others faith.
She taught me the key to happiness which is gratitude. She was grateful of every thing she had and never dwelled on whatever pain and suffering she was going through at the time. She chose to look for the good in every moment and she was the happiest, most joyful, compassionate, loving and content person I have ever encountered
Thank you for writing about your grandma and reminding me of mine. WIth her passing last year sometimes I need to be reminded of the lessons of her life.
Your grandmother sounds like an amazing woman! I’m so glad to hear that you learned many of the same lessons. It all seems to come down to gratitude and appreciation of those around us. I’m still learning to keep an eye on the big picture, but it helps to have people like my grandmother to remind me of a bigger purpose!
I hope she has a really happy birthday 🙂
I liked this post – I’m completely stressing and freaking out about the bar exams I am taking tomorrow and it kind of made me stop and see the bigger picture again.
Thanks for commenting! Good luck on your exams!
A beautiful tribute, and I bet she is proud of you. Especially for your 6-months approach to life. I did the same thing: quit a job as a securities lawyer to play piano in bars. And write reviews of wines. Thanks for your inspiring words,
-Wineguider, http://wineguider.wordpress.com
Thank you, wineguider! Sounds like you’re living an incredible life!
In India we usually say “You’ll live for 100 years”.I want to congratulate your grandmother on turning 100 years.They say that those who are happy and healthy live for 100 years,though this might turn out to be a myth that some people tend to break.I can only give your grandmother lots of love and best wishes.
Thank you Sudhir! I’m always interested to hear about other cultures and their views.
I never got to know either of my grandmothers as they passed away while I was just a baby, so although this post has made me a little sad it is a lovely read nonetheless. The accompanying photo is beautiful.
Thank you socsodo! My dad took it.
Jacqueline,
Thank you for this moving tribute to your beloved grandmother. What really struck me is your wish to one day become half the woman she is; when I delivered my grandfather’s eulogy, I wished to become half the man he was…because then I would be ten times the man I am today!
Grandpa Jack and my father Bob have taught me everything I ever managed to learn about being a strong and gentle man. That led to my own blog on practical peacemaking. I hope you’ll visit:
PowerfulPeace.NET
– Rob
Very cool, Rob! I will definitely check it out. I like what you said about being a strong and gentle man. So glad that the men in your family inspired you!
You are really lucky to have such a lovely grandma. I wish you find each other in all of your lives. This is a beautiful read. Thank you.
Thank you, Sonalisangle!
Very beautiful story… Thanks for sharing
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Thank you, Benjamin Franklin!
I was lucky enough to have had a grandmother much like yours. She passed away last spring and I miss her like crazy. I hope you have a wonderful time celebrating her life so far. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you, stuckinmypedals! I’m glad that we both had the experience of being around such amazing women.
It was really nice to read your post. It reminded me of the days I spent with my grandparents during school vacations.
Even to this day my grandmother is full of energy and always puts others’ needs ahead of hers. It is really good to have her in my life.
Thank you! I’m sure she appreciates all your gratitude.
Grandma’s are awesome.
Sounds like you are blessed. It’s amazing how much we can learn from our elders. You are lucky to be able to grow old enough to learn from yours. Most people don’t have this realization until it’s too late.
Grandmas are awesome! I agree. I actually think we can learn the most from our elders and from children. Children have a fresh perspective on the world and don’t take things too seriously. Elders are societies’ wisdom keepers. You might enjoy an article I wrote about from my other blog: http://peachinchina.blogspot.com/2009/09/respected-people.html about ageism in American society. Thanks for reading and commenting!
It is an honor to know Mrs. Boone. She is an exceptionally wonderful woman! God bless her.
Thank you, Joyce! Amen!
What a beautiful photo of you and your grandmother. You are truly blessed to have such a wise gentle woman as your guide.
Thank you, Sayitinasong!
What a beautiful post! By the time I was christened all 4 my grandparents had died. And I have always been envious of children who enjoyed such rich experiences.
Your photo is also so sweet and pretty!
Thank you! What a cool name for a blog. I look forward to checking it out. My dad was always big on taking photos as kids. This one is a treasure!
To you and all the special grandmothers out there;
A special thanks for all your love, for your beliefs passed to us, and for the inspiration you have been to all us granddaughters who will spend our lives remembering all the ways your love has comforted and strenghtened us. Know each experience that life brings to us you will forever be there in our hearts. As I baked an apple cake today I felt my Baba with me, this is why we call those dishes and deserts comfort foods. Happy birthday!
Best Regards, Eileen Maguire
How beautiful, Ellen! Thanks for posting your ode to grandmothers!
What a harmonious photo it was and how cute u were….
I am sure that you must had a wonderful party with your grandmother,your family and friends.
It’s a pity to hear that your failed to go to Nepal the last fall.
I will pay some time to read your rest postes.It’s all right with me.
Best wishes,
Thank you, Iverson! Yes, it was a pity that I could not go to Nepal, but I will go to Peru next month, so it all worked out! Hope everything is going well for you! When will you graduate? This year?
This blog has inspired me to start working on my own blog
That’s so wonderful to hear! What’s your blog about?