When I was 23, I believed I could do anything. I moved to middle-of-nowhere China right after college, and all seemed possible. Even moving to a country where I didn’t speak the language, was the only white girl in town, and had very little understanding of Chinese culture didn’t seem to phase me much. I was nervous, but more so, excited.
I’ll never forget riding in a motorized rickshaw with the liaison at the school, John. We were on our way to lunch, and he turned to me and said, “You can do anything. I believe you can!” I thanked him and thought to myself, “I really can.”
6 years, 8 jobs, and 5 cities later I realize I lost that belief. It changed to, “I can do a lot, and I suck for not doing more.”
I’ve only been doing Rejection Therapy for a week, and it’s already opened my eyes to how often I reject myself by saying “no” or “I can’t” to my dreams, my heart’s whisperings, and my impulses. It’s also showed me how much is possible when we ask and how often people say “yes.”
I’m using Rejection Therapy as a way to actively pursue my long-standing dreams. Too long have they sat by the wayside, waiting. August is my first month of being 29, and I’m going for it! The worst anyone can say is “no,” and if they do, then that’s all the more awesome. I’ve got my rejection for the day.
We’ve already got a small community of people taking on this Life Experiment for a month. Will you join us?
Rejection Therapy Wins:
- I’m officially teaching my first Skillshare class at the end of the month (something I’ve wanted to do for a long time) and will be giving a talk/class at NextSpace SF
- I got 15% off from Anthropologie and was able to buy this amazing dress
- My friend said I can have a ride on his motorcycle
- I got the day off work and went exploring in Half Moon Bay
- Will be doing an incredible contest on the blog with Live Inspired (stay tuned!)
- Learned how to replace the cable for the gear on my bike
Straight Up Rejection:
- Friend said ‘no’ to doing karaoke with me (who does that?!)
- No food for you
- Guess I’ll be dancing solo…
- “I have too much work”
I Chickened Out (Rejections I wish I had gone for):
- I couldn’t bring myself to ask for a free soda at John’s Deli
- There was a gorgeous man at my local coffee shop. Should have asked for his number. Did I mention he was cut from marble?